Report of the activities held on May 8th, 2014 at KDM
Coping with failure
Participants: 15 kids of Yellow class
Trainers: Nancy, Sara, Sotar, Ulie, Mara, Benedetta, Therese, Susanne
What we needed:
- Post-it for each child.
- Violin and guitar (Sara)
- A ball with a small basket (Sara)
- 4 colorful scarves (Nancy)
- 3 balls and 3 baskets (Nancy)
- A rope (Nancy)
- Beng bengs for all the kids
- Sheets and colors for each kid
- 4 balloons and two ropes (Nancy)
Music by:
- Sorrow, Bartok
- Allegro, Handel
- Prokofiev Sonata
- Mozart canon
- Jazz piece
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ACTIVITIES:
They liked the game, but they couldn’t focus for a longtime
2) Dragons
Divide them in three groups: children born in Jan-Apr, May-Aug, Sept-Dec.
3 Groups (the Ninjas, the Naruto, the Little Krishnas) of 5 players each – the last member had a scarf like tail – the head of dragon had to catch the tail of the other dragon – the dragons couldn’t break.
10 min
Kids loved the game, but the boys were a bit out of control. L said at the beginning, when we divided the kids into groups, that she didn't want to be in the boys' group.
The boys banged into table and rolled over the floor.
It would have been better to play this game outside where there are a lot of rooms and where the boys have more self-control.
3) Introduction of Therese (guess about her)
Mozart and jazz pieces were played
10 min
Therese engaged the kids from the first moment onwards. Kids seemed to like her immediately. They were very interested in the fact that she has lived in
Indonesia for a very long time and that she married an Indonesian man as well as the fact that she has an Indonesian surname.
Kids listened very carefully to Therese and Sara's duet. Especially
Ar, he's always engrossed in the music. A also seemed to enjoy it a lot.
Comments:
4) Drama with Ulie, Therese and Sara:
Sara and Therese had to do a competition to get a job.
They practiced a lot for it. They had to play Vivaldi’sspring from the beginning.
Ulie and Sotar were the judgers.
At the end of the two pieces, Ulie said that Theresewas the winner an that she got the new job.
Sara was very upset.
Request: Please, write down what you would think if you were Sara.
Question: Would you participate again if you were in her place?
thoughts.
Kids liked the drama.
Notes:
- Sad and frustrated
- Annoyed, sad and shy
- Thought: annoyed, frustrated, felt sorry
- If I were miss Sara, I would be angry :)
- Angry
- If I was in her, I would be sorry (Sy)
- Sad, annoyed. Felt sorry because Sara ridiculed Therese
- If I were in her, I would feel confused
- If I were miss Sara, I would feel sad and disappointed (JesI)
- If I were miss Sara I would feel nervous and shy
- If I were miss Sara, I would never give up and keep the spirit (D)
- I was very sad because I lost the soccer competition
- Disappointed
- If I were miss Sara, I would be sad and disappointed
- Confused
(We kept the Focus on “trying again”
Focus on trying again. Dale Carnegie once said that it was essential to "develop success from failures”. Discouragement and failure are two of the most important steps to success." Persistence is the source of success for most of people on this planet. SiimonReynolds believes that “lack of persistence is one of the main reason for which people fail”; giving up toosoon means that you'll never know whether what you're seeking to do or be was achievable; he says that this is the case for "the majority of people".)
15 min
- SNACK TIME -
5) Game: toss a ball in a small basket
The three groups were taken as well as 3 balls and 3 baskets, and a rope as a boundary.
They were told to score in the basket, and the team who won got sweet Beng-bengs (we shown it, to make them feel competitive).
We made sure that they wouldn’t score any ball.
Nobody won.
Questions:
(Focus on: Remind yourself that you are good enough.
Failures cause us to want to withdraw and not try again due to fear of being further exposed as inadequate and incapable. However, this fear is notfounded; in reality, nobody is perfect and everyone will err at various points in life.
There is a real difference between who becomessuccessful and overcomes failures and who does not understand how to manage failures as well as their impact.
Feeling inadequate is a commonplace; it is a human feeling that even very public as well as very successful people feel, however, they don't let it keep them down. You are good enough; all you need is to give yourself the “go-ahead” to keep trying.
15 min)
They all lined up nicely. Di got really upset when theother kids pushed the rope, which symbolizes the line, forward. He didn't tell the kids that they shouldn't havedone that, but instead, he called Sara, Susanne and Nancy.
6) The sweet beng-bengs was given to them and they were free to try again with the ball if they wished
The kids were asked if they knew any successful or famous person: everybody knew someone.
The kids were also asked what is needed to succeed
Answers: keep trying, study hard, never give up.
6) Therese and Sara played three pieces:
- Sorrow, Bartok
- Allegro, Handel
- Prokofiev Sonata (anger)
The kids will draw freely.
15 min
7) Balloon Volley Ball
The kids were divided into four teams of 4 kids each.
The game consisted of a simple version of volleyballwith a balloon. A net was erected at a suitable height for those playing using string. At the beginning of the game, the balloon was thrown in and each team got two hits at the balloon before it went over the net and into the opposing teams area. If the balloon touchedthe floor, or it failed to go over the net within the two hits, a point would be awarded against that team. The game may be played using points or within a designated time limit.
- Played for 5 minutes normally.
- The kids were asked to try to lose on purpose, taking turns.
- Subsequently, they were asked what they felt while losing.
(Focus on: Kids were allowed to fail on purpose.
Failing on purpose is a good thing to do, provided that it wouldn't harm others or that it wouldn’t have anylong-term negative consequences.
Learning something new, trying something beyondyour set of skills and asking for something when youdon’t know the answer will be really helpful when trying to improve (such as a raise, promotion, etc.)
Doing this, you'll experience more benefits than losses; for instance, learning how to handle failure,improving the ability to extract key issues within yourlimits, and unearthing the value of partial success are great benefits.)
10 min
The kids were not very inspired when they had to try to win. Chaotic.
When we told them that the second round they had to lose, they tried to do their best.
What did we do today?
Answers: work together, about winners, losers and failures
8) Musica Musica song
- Sing it a second time COMPLETELY wrong, just for fun.
Emoticons:
Report Wednesday 30 April
Participants: 14 kids of the Yellow class
Trainers: Sara, Susanne, Sotar, Ulie, Mara, Benedetta
Tools:
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“Deliver Emoticons”
1) Mouse and cat game
5 min
They loved it. The mood was good.
2) Sotar and Ulie made a drama on a difficult situation to talk about:
If they didn’t allow them to go outside, no permission.
The kids wrote on a post-it what they thought about the situation if they were the child (anonymously).
Then we discussed about which thoughts are “helping” and“non-helping”
Question: What do you do to feel better?
Question: Why are you not allowed to go outside the gate?
1. Because it's dangerous out there
2. There are troubles outside
3. Staff is afraid that kids will be tempted to run away (no trust)
4. Annoyed because no permission to go out and play soccer
5. Perhaps allowed to go out another time
6. Afraid that something bad would happen to the kids
7. Afraid that kids will disappear
8. Fear of bad behaviour. Staff cares about the kids.
Any helpful thoughts:
R plays soccer outside, but is actually not allowed. (Felt as usual, perhaps a bit anxious outside)
3) DRAMA with the kids:
R wanted to go out to buy snacks.
Ways for the kids to feel better:
Sotar thought: "If I went to play outside for a long period of time, the staff of KDM would be concerned, so it’s better if he plays with F to feel better."
Drama 2: Sotar, Uly, Susanne
Susanne arrived and she brought a clothes donation for children. Sotar came in and he wanted them, but he wasn’t allowed.
Non-helpful thoughts by D:
Helpful thoughts by S
Post-it notes:
- He/she wanted the clothes but the staff didn’t give any to him/her
- Staff is stingy, he/she wanted clothes but they didn't give them. Annoyed
- Annoyed, he/she thought that he/she was an adult because if they had given the clothes now, he/she wasafraid that they would have disappeared
- He/she was jealous. He/she wanted the clothes but he/she hasn’t got any yet
- Angry because the clothes he/she wanted are nice, buthe/she was not allowed to take them
- Jealous, he/she might have gotten the clothes but he/she didn’t. It wasn’t the right time
- Annoyed
- Sotar was very annoyed. Why couldn't we get theclothes?
- I was afraid that the nice clothes wouldn’t have beengiven out. Reason: nobody gets jealous
- Care about the kids.
- Happy because he/she will get nice clothes. But also annoyed because can't have them now
- Very annoyed because he/she was not allowed to take the clothes now. Staff said that other kids would be jealous
- Sotar was upset because he couldn't go out
- Annoyed because can't go out. Reason: something bad will happen
- Upset because he/she was not allowed to go out. Theyare afraid that he/she would run away
- Annoyed. He/she ran away
- Annoyed because he/she wanted to play ball outside
- Upset. Reason: afraid he/she would have run away
- Cares about kids. Afraid something bad will happen
- Staff afraid that he/she would run away. Confused and annoyed
- Annoyed. Reason: he/she was not allowed to go out because Uly was afraid that Sotar would run away
- Annoyed and angry because he/she was not allowed to go out. He/she was afraid that something would happen
- Annoyed. Afraid ran away
- Annoyed. He/she was not allowed to go out
- SNACK TIME -
Dance on Irish theme, 8 steps:
D and most of the kids didn’t focus and they didn’t follow the instructions. Sara decided to stop the activity.
Balloon game (sitting on a balloon, half blown):
At the beginning you felt stressed because you thought that this was going to brake-blow up, body, physical reactions (sweating hands, muscles tight)
Emotion reactions (afraid, insecure).
As soon as you realize that the balloon is not going to brake you feel normal, and even playful.
Goal:
The way you think influences a lot how you feel physically and emotionally, moreover, it even influences what you do.
Bouncing on balloon:
Kids who are afraid the balloon would burst:
T, S, L, I, N
- Heart beats faster
- Sweaty hands
- Wanted to hold on to something
If it felt comfortable (because already sit on balloon for awhile):
- A, D: because they were already used to it
- I: because it didn't burst
- J: because the balloon was small
- F: already good at sitting on balloon
- D: because it felt comfortable
It was the same action that we did: just sitting on the balloon.
When starting, we may be afraid, but after we get used to it, we won’t be afraid anymore. Once we're not afraid, we will start to be braver and press the balloon, because we know that it won't burst.
Glass falling activity
Ulie pretended to sleep when suddenly a strong sound (crash) was heard.
She did it twice:
- Thinking that it's a thief
- Thinking that it's a cat
The way you think influences the way you feel and the way you act.
Asked the kids to take her place and showed what theywould do.
* Song:
The way you think changes what you feel and what you do
"Cara kamu, berpikir,
mengubah, apa yang
kamu rasakan dan lakukan
kamu rasakan dan lakukan"
5 min
Musica musica song
Emoticons:
We've noticed that many times some kids are tired.
