Theme of the day: Emotions provoked by being either impolite or polite
Participants: 12 kids of the Yellow class
Trainers: Sara, Nancy, Susanne, Uli, Jolanda
Materials needed:
- 10 hats (Nancy)
- Violin (Sara)
- 18 pieces of paper and pencils (Nancy)
- Banners (U)
- Emoticons to color at the beginning and at the endof the session
- Nancy had to invent the choreography of the first part of the Qua qua Dance.
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* Warming up game, detangling knot
5 min
They liked the game, even though the "energy" level of the group was not high at the beginning of the session. Some of the kids appeared to be tired or worried.
* Impolite game:
Divide them in two groups and tell the first group to be impolite and the second group to be polite. Put the hat on the impolite kids.
Played music and walked pretending to be on the street; when music stopped they interacted with the closer person in their given way:
RULES:
- Cannot say bad words
- Cannot hurt themselves or ruin things
- The polite persons will react politely
reminded them that this is just a game.
5 min
* Swap roles
5 min
The first 2 attempts didn't work, it was a bit chaotic. At the third attempt, we made groups of 2 (one polite, one not), and that worked much better.
Then, they switched roles.
During the 4th attempt, we arranged the kids into 2 rows (they had to exchange roles being polite/impolite), this worked very well. Roles of the different characters were clearer to the kids.
There was a lot of touching: slapping/jokingly pushing
Mini Drama in pairs, exchanged roles from situation 1: one person polite, the other one impolite.
* Sat down, introduced Jolanda, and asked what they had felt while being both impolite and polite (irritation, anger, fear, revenge, sadness, depend on the person and on my mood, annoyed, bothered, disappointed)
Drama: Divided them in pairs and asked them to act a real situation out in which they were impolitetowards someone or somebody was impolitetowards them.
20 min
What do we feel when people are not polite to us?
- Ek (paired with Di): He didn't like it when Di was teasing him. He was annoyed
- Di: he felt worried
- Em (paired with L): she became angry when Lmocked her
- L: irritated
Then they were polite to each other. Some of the boys said that “polite” is boring.
- I (paired with Jolande) Jolande was trying to make friends with I. I didn't want to because she didn't know Jolande.
- De: annoyed and happy. Happy because “impolite”can be turned into “polite”. He wasn’t happy because “polite” can be turned into “impolite.”
- U: got irritated with impolite people
- A: didn’t like impolite people, he got annoyed
- T: in the drama she got pushed into getting a nap. She didn't like it.
- Sy: felt annoyed
- Jolande: she was not happy. She doesn't like herself when she is impolite.
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What emotion do they feel when they're impolite?
- I: annoyed
- Ar: annoyed
- S: annoyed
- A: as usual
- Ek: not happy
- Susanne: angry with other person and not happy with herself
- Di: disturbed
- Em: annoyed
- L: annoyed, uncomfortable
- Sara: sad, but in beginning powerful
2 situations were written down:
When people are polite towards you.
When people are impolite towards you.
Ibu U read and kids have to guess. They liked this game. A lot of cheering when they guessed correctly. Find below their writings.
---Break----
* Dance
On "ballo del qua qua" music, they had to follow Nancy doing impolite movements during the first part of the music, and they had to dance in pairs nicely on the second part.
A:
impolite movement
4 beats
4 beats
4 beats
rotation
B:
4 beats
4 beats
4 beats
rotation
A-B: repeat the same movements
C: danced together hooking their arms, rotating and swapping partner
Twice the whole thing.
The kids had a lot of fun. When the music went faster they had to laugh when they tried to keep up.
* A Toss Up
A game in order to help teens to get to know one another.
The number of questions per participants was checked so it was for all the same. They tried to include questions about a favorite color, ideal vacation spot or future career choice, and cut each question out and then they were taped to a large ball. The group was asked to stand in a circle and then toss the ball to a member within the group. The group member should have answered one of the questions, thenremoved it from the ball and then tossed the ball to a new member. The process was repeated until everyone had answered a question.
They seemed to like this game. The only problem was that they read the questions before pick one. Next time we should stick questions so that they can't read them.
- U: What makes you scared? *Heights
- De: What makes you laugh? * Funny videos
- R: Where would you like to go on holiday? *Bali
- Ek: What work would you like to do in the future?*Farmer
- Di: What is your favourite smell? *Perfume
- T: What is your favourite colour? *Black
- Sy: What is your favourite sport? *Soccer
- L: What is your favourite animal? *cat
- I: What is special about her? * she can study well
- S: Does she bite pencils? * yes
- Em: Who is your favourite superhero? *batman
- Ar: What would you do when you were invisible for 1 day? *play at warnet
Sara then played the bumble-bee flight, by Rimsky-Korsakov, on her violin (but we didnt tell them the title of the music).
What did they feel when listening to the music?
- Em: stand in front of a cave. She is scared
- Di :bees chased him
- S: made a mistake, she is helped by someone but still scared
- Ar: chased by people
- U: stuck in traffic and in a hurry. When the music eases it's like having a break
- T: drowning in the sea
- Ek: in a train, the police is chasing him
- I: confused
- R: scary music. He plays at sea, he wants to swim but is scared of the waves
- L: chased by a dog
- Sy: climbs on a mountain and goes very fast down
Sara explained the theme of the day: polite/impolite
Sara explained with a smile that the music, “The Flight Of The Bumblebee” can be annoying as much as unpolite behaviours could be to us.
Dance in pairs: 1 bumblebee, one person. While Sara played the violin, the person chased the bumblebee and when the music stopped, the bumblebee dropped down.
They had a lot of fun with this exercise.
*Remark:
The kids were very particular in picking a colourpencil fro, colouring the emoticons and writing down stuff.
Some of them didn't want to take a pencil that I offered, but they wanted to pick another colour.`
Result of the Emoticons (how they were feeling at the beginning and then at the end of the workshop):
A: 1: smile (he only joined 1st part session, later exchanged with R)
Ariq: 1. Happy (coloured in green, middle part open). 2. Happy (purple, middle part open)
De: 1. Unhappy. 2. Happy
Ek: 1. Happy. 2. Happy
Entis (Sy). 1. Happy. 2. Neutral (with eyes closed, last emoticon)
I. 1. Happy. 2. Neutral (with eyes closed, last emoticon)
T. 1. Happy. 2. Unhappy
Ema. 1. Neutral (emoticon 5), 2. Angry
L. 1. Happy. 2. Unhappy
Di. 1. Unhappy. 2. Angry
S. 1. Angry. 2. Happy
Kids on situations “polite/impolite people”:
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One day I met a person who wasn’t nice, because he threw rambutans at me•
And one day I met a good person, he/she gave me ice------------
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I've beaten good people on the streets and in the KDM, and said bad words.•
I've met a good person on the streets. I came from the train and fell on the ground. A good person helped me out.----------------
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Once, I met a bad person who bullied me. I felt like I should have taken my revenge, but Ididn’t want to.•
Once my book fell down, a nice person who always helps me gave it to me.---------------
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I'm annoyed because I talk to that person who teased me off. The person was not nice andS/he was impatient. So I’m annoyed..•
I’m happy because I can meet nice people when they say they understand. Good people like helping and respecting their friends.---------------
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One Sunday morning I met other children singers who beat me up.•
One afternoon I met a man on the streets who gave me food.-----------
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Once I met a nice person who liked helping meout with a clean up task•
Once I met an awful person who bullied me when I was happy.-----------
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Once, when I went home I didn’t have any money and someone gave me a lift in the car•
A row in the classroom is dirty------
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When I met buskers and beggars they forcedme to give them money in the city bus•
Once I met someone who needed help with the car when it suddenly had stopped in the middle of the road.-------
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I met a nice person who shared nasi with me and my friends and other people who difficultly shares with others.•
I met a very bad person. I was on the streets and that person had harassed me. I also met a bad person at KDM
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Once, I met a good person, but I was only a bit happy because that person didn’t have a big temper. That person hit me, but not too hard.•
Once I met a good person, and I helped him/her. He/she helped me in everything I did.---------
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I met a nice person at KDM who helped me when my sandals were on top of the roof.•
I met a bad person on the streets who annoyed me. That person hit me (with car/motor?) when I was walking on the street.----------
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Once I met a bad person who stressed me out. That person liked hitting others. Every time I saw that person, I had ran away because I was afraid.•
I met siblings when I was on the streets. It was fun to go out together.
