TRAINING OF TRAINERS, KDM
Developig a vocabulary on emotions, working with "anger"
What we will need:
- 12 sheets with the name and drawing of 12 emotions:
1 left out: ditinggalkan
2 joyful : riang
3 stuck: terjebak
4 undeserving (something) : tidak pantas mendapatkan (sesuatu)
5 energized : bersemangat
6 confident: yakin
7 blamed: disalahkan
8 cheerful : ceria
9 rejected: ditolak
10 resentful: tersinggung
11 bothered: terganggu
- tape (to hang the drawings)
- The banner of emotions (only take it out after the brain-storming)
- three folded pieces of paper: in one it will be written 1, in another 2 and then 3.
- 6 blindfolds
- write on a big sheet(at least A3, you can use two A4 sheets taped together):
"Yakin ceria, yakin ceria,
ditolak disalahkan, ditolak disalahkan,
N., U., I., U., A., L.
W., UN photographer
L. and A., from Chance to dance
1 - warming up the body
sing "Yakin ceria, yakin ceria,
ditolak disalahkan, ditolak disalahkan,
bersemangat, bersemangat" (with Frere Jacques tune)
Ask what they do remember from the last meeting: they mostly remember the games we have done.
Team building games
2 - Blindfold game
pretend to be a child or a teacher
writing characteristics and who it belongs to
star with compliments
what like or dislike on paper
U. learnt how to identify emotions is already important to teach the children
when she knows what the children are feeling it makes her easier to handle the situation
makes easier to give the learning ways for the children
She is flexible and doesnt force the children to learn
A. is a bit more obeyent
Encourage comfortability among the group.
This is a silent activity. Students work in pairs.
Partner 1 is instructed to close their eyes as partner 2 leads them around the space.
Partner 2’s goal is to make their partner feel as safe as possible. They must determine what is best for their partner (without talking) – walking with both hands held, one hand held, arm around shoulder, etc.
Let them wander for 2 minutes or so, keeping their movement slow at all times. Switch.
How did you make your partner feel safe? What did your partner do that made you feel safe?
3 - Game with music and emotions (drawings hanging in the room)
They have first to listen carefully and then position themselves next to the drawing that more suits their emotion.
They were feeling really free to choose their emotions.
U., needs to be mor concentrated to feel what she really feels.
A., she is very expressive, and if she is sad she sings a sad song, she express her emotions with singing, lot of emotions: if she is angry she sings religous songs
4 - Music and imagination
Play a music and ask them what story it could be narrating
Talk about the emotions, and ask them to mention as many as they can. Write it down.
5 - Work on "feeling stormy"
Talk about the different intensity of feeling stormy, from bothered to furious.
Ask to tell a story regarding those feelings.
Ask to tell how the body reacts when angry.
Role play: divide the ibus in three groups, ask them to take one ticket among three (in each of them it will be written 1 or 2 or 3).
They did the role play stories very well.
- Snack time -
6 - Talking together about their personal experience
What do you do when you are angry? How do you react?
A.: 2 alternatif: one, she sits with no expression feeling sick inside, shaking, boiling inside, when somebody is there she throws there her anger, heart is quickly beating, the breath is heavy, no sweating
L.: she writes when she is angry, drawings of nature beacause she wants to be in the drawings who sooths her, she feels sorry for being angry,
this morning she was angry because her mother in law is sick and she has to take care of her, prepare the daily routine, her daughter is also sick, and she is also not feeling well but she had to take care of everything. She felt that nobody helped her but the person didnt want t help her.
She was feeling stressed.
But if she puts music she forgets.
I.: depends on her mood: if she is happy she just forget and do another activity.
If her mood is not good she feels furious, in that case she doesnt want the chilren near her beacause she will be angry with them.
Watch tv, playing piano, or eat.
Last time she got angry was 3 days ago because she asked her eldest son to help to sweep the floor and tidy up, he just playied and she gave punishment him not giving allowance for a week.
If they are angry often foreigners cant see it
U., when si is angry she will talk a lot, from low tone to high tone.
This morning she got angry with A. as she had to repeat many time the same things until at one point she just ignored him. A. was teasing R..
S. smashed A.. So U. tried A. to move out of R..
A. went out, but he kept saying bad words to U. and the class.
Why A. behaves like that: because he wants to get attention for himsef.
How do the children express their anger:
- leaving the class and playing outside
- they cry
- they will tell the teacher who keeps annoying them
- crying, talking with loud voice, smashing the table, keep silent (F.), fighting.
Ask about difficult situation that they are facing, role playing.
How to manage anger?
How do you think the kids manage it?
Help the kids to find the words to explain their strong feelings.
The challenge is to let them epress their emotion without affecting the others and the class: how?
Decide when to do the next training.
- how can we deal with anger?
* step away from your anger and distract yourself for a while so that you do not make decisions that are simply based on emotion. Taking deep breaths can be very relieving.
* Use "I" statement to describe what you are feeling rather than blame or point out the faults of someone or something else (so, if someone pushes you in the lunch line, instead of saying "you are a jerk" you might instead say "I dont like being pushed".
* Figure out a safe way to express your anger in a way that doenst hurt anyone or anything.
* Always try to speak in a voice that is not too loud or sarcastic. An angry tone of voice makes it impossible for the other person to hear what you are saying because they will only hear the anger, not your words.
* talk to someone about your angry feelings - even to a pet or a doll.
* stand-up for yourself. Knowing that anger is a self-protective response, next time someone teases you, realize that you are angry because you were put down and hurt, take a deep breath, and try to stay calm. Even if you simply say that you dont appreciate being teased, then, at least, the focus would be on the person who made the comment, rather then on your angry response.